O help, you're ill.... And you can't ignore it and feel too weak to do anything else than focus on getting better*.
But, what about your kids now? And your husband (who must be an adult, come to think of it)? And your housekeeping, getting everyone a healthy meal, and o yes, work and/or your biz.
I am so with you, dear girl. Once year on average, I am in this boat. Just as right now. And since I do only have a biz (or two, actually), it seems I have to prioritize. Not to mention, I'm pregnant with boy number four, so that adds some responsibility for another person I cannot delegate.
So, my steps to get healthy and up and running again?
1. Take a time out, and not 5 minutes. Clear your schedule for this day and the next with everything outside of your home. Communicate this clearly to everyone involved. Make a fort of your bed with water, tea, your laptop (netflix, email, Facebook) and some nice pillows and candles and stuff to make you feel better.
2. Get help, from hubby, family, friends and professionals to take care of your kids, and optionally your home. Only be available for cuddles. Make sure you don't have to worry about the rest. Seriously, ask for help!
3. Go see a doctor if you think that's needed. Make an appointment and make sure you have the time to discuss all that's bothering you. Ask for specific, doable tips to help you get better fast.
4. Sleep. Sleep. Sleep. This will make you better.
5. Eat healthy things, such as veggies :) but, if appetite provides dilemma's for you (eating vs. feeling worse), eat what you like at that moment but be aware of the effect it may have on your gut.
6. Go back to your schedule and see if you have to clear some more. Make a plan to increase your busy-ness step by step over the few days.
7. If 'disaster' strikes likes this, give yourself permission to Take Care of Yourself First! Here the airplane-analogy comes in handy again: if you don't take care of your own oxygen first, you might not be able to provide it for the people around you.
Take care and get better dear momma, get well soon!
* I do not refer to serious, life-threatening diseases or chronic illnesses here, more to something like a fervent flu. I have the utmost respect for people who have to deal with a chronic or life-threatening situation and I wish you all the best.
Woah! Hubby and I are spending our days working, taking care of and playing with our kids, and...
Haha, I'm writing this in a hotel... working between meetings here and other places. The waiter brings my tea and offers me a choice of flavors, saying "that this may be your most important choice for today" with a big smile :) . I hope so too, but fear otherwise. At least I also already know what's for dinner :)
So, where was I. Right, next to work and kids, we're having our dream house built. I know a lot of moms who are in kind of the same boat. That was a lot of to do's already, but three weeks ago our dear nanny announced she'd leave around half july. Panic all over!! It was unexpected and it's sad to see her leave, but the impact on my agenda is not small either. Every week since then hubby have spend five (5!!) hours per week in search of a new nanny. Writing a job posting, calling potential candidates we already knew, getting nanny-bureaus to search with us, et cetera. That's a small part time job on its own :) And so far, no result. Hmmm.
However, to add this new hobby to my schedule takes some pro planning skills I didn't know I had. Like abs. So, how do you do all that???
1) Let's start with the fortunate fact that hubby and me can share the load and we tend to do that quite intentionally. Most sundays we have some sort of (very informal) planning meeting. Usually when our kids need downtime and are watching some Shaun the Sheep, or in the care when we are going to an outing. This way, we know what's coming at us the following week and what are the most important actions to take. Divide and conquer.
2) Meal plan. This is becoming quite boring but over the past half year, we're eating pasta every wednesday and pizza every thursday. We always plan meals for a week ahead and have groceries delivered accordingly. When we watch the sales, usually delivery is free or discounted.
... Meeting starts. More in due time! xox
So... this is getting annoying in our house :) Our eldest learned to roll things or put them down gently instead of throwing everything around the room. Until our second son came into the throwing phase and now the third one gets into the habit too. Yes, "throwing things is an enjoyable new skill for children his age". And so it seems. Balls would generally be allright but books, toy cars, cutlery, food, and other hard objects are obviously not okay.
What usually works in our house are the following tactics, which do still take a little practice on my part...
Lots of love. And patience! xox